Over time, I have had calls from parents seeking help/advice about managing their child’s problematic behaviour.
Some parents I have ended up working with over a few sessions, others we have managed to deal with the situation over just two sessions while others have said they will get back to me…and never did, which is fine if they managed to sort the problem out but what if they didn’t?
I’m thinking of one such parent, at the moment, who got back in touch with me a couple of weeks ago.
The first time she we spoke was back in 2014; it was about her then 10-year-old. Since the divorce, she’d explained, her son’s behaviour had slowly started to change. He was becoming defiant and was lying more and more. His school work, which had once been exemplary, was now deteriorating very fast.
We spoke for an hour and at the end of that session, we agreed on a specific day and time in the week, that we would be working together. I never heard back from her…until two weeks ago.
By this time, her son, now 13, had been excluded from school, was smoking and staying out all night if he wanted to. The police were involved and so were social services.
This is by no means the only time this type of thing has happened and unfortunately, with each one case, the situation would have been remedied or corrected while it was still “easier” to do so.
So, if you’re concerned about your child’s change in behaviour, please, please do something about it.
“But it’s just a phase,” I hear you say.
Maybe so, but many behaviour problems are not always expected, predictable and a necessary part of normal development.
Find out how to manage it and deal with it before things get a whole lot worse – not just for your own peace but especially for your child too.
Who knows what is going on for your child? Whatever it is, don’t wait until you’re in a crisis to come up with a crisis plan.
If I may borrow Triple P (Positive Parenting Program) fab slogan – Small Changes, Big Differences.