Children, Divorce and Parental Conflict

We all agree that conflict is a normal part of family life. What matters is how parents deal with it.

If there’s continuous parental conflict in the home, including in those homes where parents are living separately, then please do read below to find out if any of the following applies to your little one.

You are your child’s expert so you will know best if he/she is experiencing any of the following and serious the situation maybe.

  • Behavioural problems. This is perhaps the most common and/or the most noticeable change. Children will often express stress, the lack of adequate support and anxieties through behaviour as opposed to words.
  • Sleep disturbances. Your child is finding it difficult to fall sleep or remain asleep through the night.
  • Psychosomatic symptoms. Your child maybe suffering from physical pain, which is very real to him/her but has no apparent medical basis. This could be caused by the stressful situation in which they live.
  • Underachievement at school
  • Low self-esteem and/or is overly self-critical.
  • There is regression. Where you child is now showing behaviour more consistent with his/her younger self; behaviours that they had outgrown but have now reverted back to, may include bed wetting for instance.
  • Where your child is no longer interested in things that she/he used to enjoy doing or taking part in.

We, as adults and as parents, can and do underestimate children’s ability to understand and deal with feelings and relationships. Speaking with them and answering their questions as much as and as best as possible can go a long way in helping them deal with the situation.

Also, and this may sound odd, giving them permission to speak with you or someone they trust can also open doors for communication to happen spontaneously hence avoiding a whole lot of problems down the line. Just letting them know it’s ok to ask and to enquire what happened and what is going on and letting them see that you, as the parent, can handle and contain their fears, worries and anxieties allows them to come to you.

If you are concerned about your little one(s) don’t hesitate to contact me on 07850 85 60 66 or email me at soila@soila.co.uk

Book for a 30 minute free consultation because at times, that’s all it takes to gain some clarity and guidance.  It’s ok.
Warm hugs,

Soila

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