Children of Divorce: First Christmas

Christmas is soon upon us and from speaking with people it seems to be very much like Marmite – you either love it or hate it.

But when you are going through a divorce or have just been through one, it can be one of the most difficult and challenging holidays you will have and for your children, one of the most confusing times too.

So here are somethings that you could do to make sure that they are all right, to make sure that they enjoy this time as much as possible.

  •  Let them know exactly what the plans are during the festive season, i.e. who they are spending the holidays with, where and how.  If they are spending time with your ex and you don’t know what the plans are for them, then let them know this too but if you can get this information for them then do so and pass it on to them.  It’s all about alleviating any anxieties and worries they may have at this time by preparing them in advance.
  • You could arrange for the children to have an “early” Christmas with the parent with whom they will not be spending their holiday time with.  They could replicate what they would have done were they to be together including opening presents etc.  Rituals are important practices to mark occasions and giving the children this time with the other parent provides them with a time to practice this ritual and with both parents too albeit at different times and different locations.
  • Not the best time to introduce a new partner.  That you are now divorced or separated and it’s their first Christmas living in this new world, will mean that your children will need time to adjust to this new life without the added complication of adjusting to a new person in their life.
  • Prepare yourself to hear that one of their wishes is to have mummy and daddy back together if only for a day and prepare yourself for them to make efforts to achieve this goal.
  • Don’t make the children worry about you or feel guilty that they are not with you over Christmas by telling them how lonely you will be.  Look after them by telling them that you will be fine and that you have plans etc. If you don’t have plans then make some.  By all means do tell them that you will miss them not that you will be lonely without them.

If you are worried that your child is or has been affected by the divorce or separation then do contact me on +44(0)7850 85 60 66.

Warm hugs,

Soila


Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Ready for personalised support?

Schedule a session with me to receive tailored support for your unique family’s needs.

Contact information

I am here to provide you with the support and guidance you require on your parenting journey.

Copyright: © 2024 Parenting Lives. All Rights Reserved.

  • Service Selection
  • Select Service Extras
  • Custom Fields
  • Agent Selection
  • Date & Time
  • Your Information
  • Payment
  • Verify Order Details
  • Confirmation

Service Selection

Please select a service for which you want to schedule an appointment

Service Selection

Please select a service for which you want to schedule an appointment

Select Service Extras

Select service extras you want to add to your booking.

Custom Fields

Please answer this set of questions to proceed.

Agent Selection

You can pick a specific agent to perform your service or select any to automatically assign you one

Date & Time

Click on a date to see a timeline of available slots, click on a green time slot to reserve it

Your Information

Please provide your contact details so we can send you a confirmation and other contact info

Payment

You can either pay online using your credit card or PayPal, or you can pay on arrival with cash

Verify Order Details

Double check your reservation details and click submit button if everything is correct

Confirmation

Your appointment has been successfully scheduled. Please retain this confirmation for your record.
Questions?

Call (858) 939-3746 for help

Service Selection

Service Selection
Select Service Extras
Custom Fields
Agent Selection
Date & Time Selection
Customer Information
Your Payment Information
Verify Booking Details
Appointment Confirmation

Select Service Duration

You need to select service duration, the price of your service will depend on duration.

How Many People?

Maximum capacity is 1
30 Minute Free Consultation
1hr Follow-up Parenting Consultation session £85 Starts From
30 min follow-up consultation £50
Summary