There are many ways parents can deal with child behaviour problems.
The discipline strategies that I will be sharing with you in the next few posts are all derived from the Positive Parenting Program or Triple P.
How to manage child behaviour problems by setting clear ground rules (3 – 12 years)
Thing is, there seems to be this new trend where some parents are seeking to be their child’s friend as opposed to the adult in the room who is there to help them grow, develop and understand social rules, limits and boundaries.
Children are born hardwired to push and test limits. That’s their job and our job, as parents, is to maintain those boundaries and limits because they give children a sense of security, normality and consistency.
So don’t be afraid to create and maintain these boundaries by setting clear ground rules that you can share with your child.
If possible, involve your child in the creation of the rules. You will know what those rules need to be depending on what’s going on for you and your family.
The main things to remember when setting the rules are:
- Have a maximum of five rules
- The rules need to be fair
- They should be easy to follow. Check with your child that he or she clearly understands what is expected of them
- When a rule is broken, be sure you’re able to back up the rules with logical consequences. This means that the consequences chosen need to not only match the behaviour but also realistic. Cancelling Christmas isn’t a realistic consequence, for instance.
- They should say what to do as opposed to what not to do e.g. “We sit on the sofa,” is better than “we don’t jump on the sofa”
As always, remember to remain consistent and persistent for this strategy to work. And always remember to praise your child when he or she does as you asked. Praise is so much more effective as a behaviour changing strategy than punishment.
If you would like me to review the rules you have put together then just email them to me firstname.lastname@example.org