Lives are Full of Accidents Mama.

Recently, on our way home, a car veered onto our lane hitting us and sending us crashing into a ditch.  I was driving and my mum and 8 year old daughter were my passengers.

The driver of the other car was drunk.  He admitted liability on the spot, apologised several times over and kept saying that he would pay for the damage to the car.  I could hear him but I was waaaaay to furious to accept his apologies or whatever else he was saying.  I believe he fell asleep at the wheel.  I put this to him and he didn’t deny it.

Thankfully there were no serious injuries to any of us and we understand it could very well have been much, much, much worse.

When we got home, that evening following the accident, I was helping my daughter get ready for bed.  She kept talking about the accident and saying how good it was that we were all wearing our seat belts (I lost my brother Davis 6 years ago in a car crush and it was never established if he had his seat belt on or not and this was her reference point).

After much discussion around this topic during our teeth brushing session, she finished by saying something that we can apply to our lives including in divorce and separation situations and experiences.

She said, “Lives are full of accidents Mama and we need to learn from them.  It would be really boring if everything was perfect and we had ice cream everyday.”

Indeed, life is full of “accidents” and difficult experiences but we do need to learn from that experience if we are to heal, grow and move on.

Soila (



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