Divorce – When Shame is Eating you Up

If you put shame in a Petri dish, it needs three things to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence and judgment.   Brene Brown

Brene Brown on Shame

As it so very often does when our relationships fail – we tend to be engulfed in shame, maybe for a day, maybe for a while much longer.

  • Shame that I failed in my marriage – I mean who do I think I am thinking that I can succeed in it while so many people have failed
  • Shame that it brought shame to my children and family
  • Shame that it’s not only happened ones but twice
  • Shame that I put on an act all these years and now it’s clear that I was only putting up a show
  • Shame that my partner left me for someone else

And on and on it goes.

Here is another video with the fabulous Brene Brown (Ted Talks) that I sincerely hope will help ease that shame.

I hope that it will make you aware of what is going on inside you and just how powerful this feeling can be.  I also hope that you will, after listening to it, that you will look to release yourself from it’s hold and grasp.

If so let me know 07850 85 60 66 – soila@parentinglives.co.uk


“Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past ten years studying vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame. She spent the first five years of her decade-long study focusing on shame and empathy, and is now using that work to explore a concept that she calls Wholeheartedness. She poses the questions:

How do we learn to embrace our vulnerabilities and imperfections so that we can engage in our lives from a place of authenticity and worthiness? How do we cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection that we need to recognize that we are enough – that we are worthy of love, belonging, and joy?”  From ted.com

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